Do I Really Need a Divorce Lawyer?

There is no easy answer to this question. It depends on the specific facts of your case. For example, the complexities of the assets involved, whether there are minor children, and, perhaps, most importantly, can you and your spouse communicate and discuss and, ultimately, agree on the issues of alimony, child support, custody/visitation and/or the division of marital assets. It may also depend on whether you feel able to work within the legal process and deal directly with lawyers, courts and judges.

Chances are that you have heard lots of divorce war stories. It’s also possible that you have heard of divorces which been handled more amicably. In the end, it ultimately comes down to you and your spouse. If you are able to communicate and work on the issues without acrimony, you may not need a lawyer or you may not need as much legal representation as a high conflict divorce.

By getting along enough to work through the issues, you will have greater control of the outcome of your divorce. You can also potentially reduce the stress and anxiety caused by a contentious divorce which will allow you to move on more quickly with your life. And, most importantly, if children are involved you can reduce the stress and anxiety on them as well.


Even if you and your spouse agree on everything, you may still want to hire a consulting attorney who can work behind the scenes and give you as-needed advice. You’ll want to make sure your attorney reviews any proposed divorce settlement agreement before you sign.


In a Situation where you and your spouse have a few definable significant issue such as child custody and support, you might consider hiring an attorney on a limited scope basis to handle those matters on your behalf.


If you and your spouse can work together then you might choose to handle your divorce through mediation. A mediator does not have to be an attorney. The mediator does not represent either spouse, but instead, acts as a neutral facilitator of your negotiations. The mediator can point out the issues to be addressed and can help you put your agreement together. Mediation can save you time, money, and the trauma that an acrimonious divorce litigation can inflict on a family. Mediation will also significantly reduce your involvement with the courts which can help keep your costs down.


Collaborative can also provide another avenue for a less confrontational divorce. In a collaborative divorce, each party is represented by their own attorney. If the case isn’t settled, the parties have to hire new lawyers to handle the litigation.


In situations where there is domestic violence, child abuse, substance abuse or other serious issues, you should strongly consider hiring a lawyer and proceeding with a litigated divorce for the protection of the family and also it is unlikely that there can be effective negotiations under such circumstances and, more importantly, the protections afforded by the court are essential in these situations. Through the court system, a lawyer can help arrange the necessary protection for an abused spouse and the children.

Proceeding with litigation also makes sense where your spouse is being dishonest with respect to finances or if there are children and your spouse is restricting access or poisoning your children against you.

You should also consider hiring an attorney if your spouse has an attorney as it can be extremely difficult and stressful to go it alone against an experienced attorney in the often complex judicial system.

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